Nothing is more
pleasant than getting some free moments in the day after a long time. Utilizing
that free time in doing one of your favorite activities is even more exciting &
personally rewarding. Fortunately, today I am refreshed because of the
aforementioned reasons. Expressing the old frozen thoughts on a new unadulterated
day in the background of the Kishore Kumar songs is ultra-soothing. You must be
wondering about the title of this article as the words ‘Mutual’ &
‘Misunderstanding’ usually don’t coexist. But if you try to have a deep
sneak of modern era relationships, very often you’ll witness these two words
happily coexisting.
Most of the
people (with normal IQ) on this planet will agree upon the fact that the most
common non-scientific phenomenon occurring in the society is ‘Love’. People
fall & rise in their life either for something
or for someone. If you want to read
the issues regarding ‘Someone’, you are reading the right article (If you want to
read issues regarding ‘Something’, follow Rahul Gandhi/Rakhi Sawant in
twitter). Believe me or not, 90% of the people on this planet fall in love with
someone (rest 10 % are liars). Now- a-days it is not surprising to see
the rates of break-ups exceeding the rates of falling in love with someone. If
you go back to the 1980s or 1990s, you will find one little beautiful thing
which used to be a recipe for an ever-lasting relationship i.e. ‘Tolerance’. But it is
hard to find the material called ‘Tolerance’ in the anatomy of modern relationship.
The word ‘Sorry’ used to carry plenty of values & feelings in the past but in the current situation it is just another word. Most of the relationships end in the
fashion similar to the breakup of Saif & Deepika in the movie ‘Love aaj
Kal’. With slightest of baseless micro-mistake both the lovers create a hidden desire to end the relationship but they wait for their counterpart to commit another mistake that is good enough to fetch an allegation. They mutually & manually want to end a relationship but wait patiently for misunderstandings. That is what I mean by‘Mutual
Misunderstanding’. Now you can think why this mutual misunderstanding is
much more common than it used to be in the past. I personally feel that the
social phobia among lovers & the strong sense of commitment that used to be
an integral component of a lover in the era of Kurt Cobain is lacking in this era of Justin
Beiber. I am not at all blaming the people with current mindset as I am also a
part of the infected crowd. The factors which have drastically reduced the tolerability
factor in a modern relationship are pressures. Yes all kind of pressures; Peer
pressure, Beer Pressure, Shear pressure, Gear pressure. People want to be fast
& furious with plenty of options surrounding them both personally &
professionally. The term ‘Break up’ is no longer a mental/social stigma; rather it has
virtually become a connecting link between a bitter life & a better life..
[If you feel
this article is Cardio-toxic/Neuro-toxic to you by any means, then close the browser
& get back to Disney & Pogo. I am not in a mood to apologize as I don’t
find anything wrong in it ;)]
amazing article abhi.. ;) keep up d gud work.. :)
ReplyDeleteOff lately, even I have concluded this! And the main problem i feel, as you pointed out very rightly, is lack of tolerance. I hv seen many people end relationships over silliest of the reasons! And then obviously, a move on. Sincerity has to be the essence of a good relation which,atleast I rarely see!
ReplyDeleteBut this was a very introspective post. Nice!
@ Dr Agasti & Yogita:
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your inputs :)